Working through Frustration
After a couple rough weeks at the gym I thought a great topic to discuss would be frustration. We all become frustrated with ourselves, our surroundings and what we are doing at certain times in our lives but like everything else, we must move past it. How exactly do we cope and react when frustration starts to build? Do we throw in the towel and quit? Is it worth continuing? How do we stay focused and work through the emotions, thoughts and feelings? I don’t have all the answers to these questions but I am happy to share the frustration I have experienced recently during my training.
Now, to understand this I am going to explain a bit about myself first. I have always loved running and it has never been a challenge to lace up and head out the door. Now by no means was I fast enough to be a professional or win but even months without running I could come back with a pace that some day-to-day runners dream about reaching. Needless to say, I haven’t spent much time working on the mechanics of it since I have always been happy with where I have been performing. After dealing with 2 herniated discs and coping with the pain and discomfort for over a year and a half, I have been dedicating most of my training to improving my body mechanics and activating the correct muscles.
After months of doing PT and building from tiny 1-in leg lifts, I tried running. I did 1-minute every 5 mins and guess what… 2 hours later, my back hurt and I knew my glutes weren’t doing what they needed to do! I thought, “how after all these months is this even possible?” The thing is, what feels long to us mentally doesn’t always equate to what our body believes. After 30 years of running with no mechanics and pushing myself to the max, it makes perfect sense that it would take this long to recondition my body. Now I just have to stop getting frustrated and discouraged and commit to the things that are the MOST important to get back to where I was. Does this mean no running? Yes. Does it mean forever? No. Really it is yet another reminder we have no control and have to have patience regardless of what comes our way. So here I am, unable to do something I love and I was frustrated to no end!
If I always stopped when I became frustrated with something or couldn’t currently do something I wanted to do, I wouldn’t have made it this far in life! I wouldn’t have graduated from Cornell. I wouldn’t have been a sous chef and cooked in multiple kitchens. I wouldn’t have done a marathon or an Ironman. Lastly, I wouldn’t be where I am today – in DC running my own company! None of the listed above was easy and let me tell you, there were many times I was MORE than frustrated! What did I do to get through these obstacles? Determination and hope that everything will fall into place if I continue to work at it every day. The best thing you can do when the going gets tough is COMMIT! Make it your number one priority and don’t let anything get in your way from doing what you need to do to make it a reality.
If I am serious about running again, then I need to commit and concentrate on what is most important a.k.a glute and pelvic stability. If I quit, I will never see any progress and never get better. I have continue to do the right workouts for me now, I will see small changes and those will lead to big ones. Eventually I will be back to the sport I love so much!
Life is a work in progress and frustration is a part of that. Most things are down right hard and slow to progress at all. Use frustration as a way to remind yourself to stop stressing over the details and take a step back to see the big picture. If you continue to move forward and progress, there is no need to get frustrated but instead remember to be patient because with time, you will reach your goal. Patience is key to getting anything accomplished, so try to settle into where you are and have faith you will improve. Never give up on yourself, remember your why and persevere!
I hope you could get something out of my story. Remember, I am with you and together we can support each other so we don’t give up and regret it later. This week try to concentrate on your goal(s) and your strategies for working through any frustration that may arise.
Health & Happiness,
Kc & GFFI Family
Fun Fact – The logo of GFFI represents discipline, perseverance and patience – the true secret to accomplishing your goals in fitness and in life 🙂